Most of us are taught from a young age that “honesty is the best policy.” While at home or at school, you’ve probably heard that the consequences would not be as severe if you tell the truth. Yet there are so many people that have a hard time admitting the truth or lack any sense of accountability. As humans, we make mistakes and we make them often, it’s part of our learning process assuming we don’t continue to make the same mistake over and over again.
In my almost 40 years on this planet, I have encountered my fair share of dishonest people (family included). I realize that there is a fine line between honesty and omitting facts and white lies. Those topics are subjective as many of us will have a hard time agreeing with what qualifies as which. My point isn’t about the subjective issues, it’s about knowing something significant and intentionally not sharing information with the person(s) involved to allow them closure.
For example, let’s say that your family has a history of cancer or a rare auto-immune disease that could be screened for as a means of early detection, but the elder family members decide to keep that information to themselves. As a member of the family, I believe you have the right to know information that might have an impact on you or your children/grandchildren.
Medical history, while it is personal, it is not shameful. Sharing medical history amongst your family should not be a subject of taboo. Sharing medical history between family members is a necessity in order to maintain one’s own health and wellness.
The same can be said for abuse that runs in the family. If you are aware that abuse (in any form) is taking place, speak up. Staying silent only helps the abuser and if you know it’s happeneing and choose to do nothing, you are at risk of becoming an accessory.
As a society we need to stop turning a blind eye to the uncomfortable situations. If you see something, then say something. Don’t be affaid of holding yourself accountable for your actions. As much as you play it cool and think noone has caught on, you are not as stealthy as you think you are. Quit lying to yourself and stop lying to everyone else.
Choose to be a part of the solution, not part of the problem. ~ Hannah