Negativity, Self Help/Healing, Shared Link

How to Identify and Deal with a Negative Person.

Welcome back blog readers,

Today’s discussion is about identifying and dealing with a negative person. We’ve all dealt with a negative person at some point; maybe it’s a loved one, a co-worker, a customer/client, or a friend.

Negative people are easy to identify because they are often chronic complainers, they are never happy, rarely have anything nice to say. No matter how much you go out of your way to please them, it’s never good enough. More often than not, you are left feeling emotionally drained after your interaction with them.

You may recognize that the behavior of the negative person is not normal, it’s not healthy. Everyone around the negative person sees the same thing. The negative person fails to see that their behavior and attitude are a problem. The negative person doesn’t recognize that they need help, even though their words/actions are often a cry for help. How can you help a person that doesn’t acknowledge that they are the problem, or avoids seeking help?  Easy, you can’t. The vicious cycle continues and nothing ever changes.

When they do come to you for advice or seek your opinion, it’s not what they want to hear and in most cases, they shoot down any options and suggestions that you provide. Seeking advice from a negative person will only backfire. Any positive news you do share will more than likely result in the negative person to rain on your parade. It’s not that they aren’t happy for you, they see what could go wrong and what might backfire. They prepare themselves for the worst-case scenario to avoid being disappointed.

I raise the question, “Why are some people so negative all of the time?” Research suggests that a negative mindset is acquired during childhood. Perhaps the parents were negative or made the child feel insecure. The parents primarily focused on failures and faults. The child learns to see only the mistakes, faults, and failures. The child was rarely praised, or there was a lack of affection or any accomplishments weren’t acknowledged or celebrated which takes a toll on a child’s confidence and view of the world.

A negative person ultimately craves Love, Respect, and Control. For those closest to them, it’s a difficult position to be in. Love and Respect are earned and most of us don’t want to be manipulated or enjoy being guilt-tripped into doing something. Since the negative person won’t change who they are, you have to change your reaction to them.

The above statements are merely my opinion. I am not a professionally trained or certified mental health professional. With that said, below are links to articles related to Negative People, their traits and behaviors, and how to deal with them or recognize that maybe it’s you.

https://psychcentral.com/blog/when-you-cant-stop-seeing-the-negative-in-everything-even-though-youre-grateful/

 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/sapient-nature/201303/dealing-negative-people

 

https://www.developgoodhabits.com/negative-people/

 

https://www.bustle.com/articles/201271-8-surprising-signs-youre-a-negative-person-how-to-fix-the-problem

 

 

 

 

Covid-19, Health Care, Speaking from Experience, Women's Health

#StayHome Health Log

Welcome back blog readers,

At the start of this pandemic, last month (Canada it was early/mid-March 2020) I started to log my temperature and any symptoms just to keep an eye on things.

Since Sunday, March 15 I’ve had a slight pressure in my upper chest, no pain, no discomfort, no issues breathing.  Just a slight pressure for the last month.

I’ve recorded my temperature, to which I tend to register on the lower end of  “normal”, so on the rare occasions where I have spiked a fever, my temperature is typically reading 99F+.

Sunday, March 22nd, Temperature 97.9F

Sunday, March 29th, Temperature 98.0F
Still no other symptoms, just a slight pressure in my upper chest to which I have chalked up as anxiety as I have chosen to continue to work.

Thursday, April 16, the slight pressure in my upper chest is now accompanied by a slight heaviness in my lungs that is more noticeable upon inhaling. Still no pain/discomfort, no real issue breathing or getting enough air/circulation, no persistent cough. Feels like the beginning of an upper respiratory infection (unconfirmed diagnosis, just my thoughts).

Friday, April 17, same as yesterday, temperature 97F

Sunday, April 19, temperature 97.6F same pressure, the same level of heaviness, feeling tired and achy I decided to call in for my shift just to be safe. I could be dealing with a mild case of Walking Pneumonia (unconfirmed, it feels familiar from when I had it back in 2015) minus the sporadic coughing fits.

Monday, April 20, temperature 97.3F no changes to how I feel. Achiness/stiffness could be a combination of things. I normally have a chiropractic adjustment every 3 weeks, my last appointment was March 12th with a follow up on April 2nd that was canceled due to the Government closing things down. I have called in for Tuesday and Wednesday because I don’t know what I’m dealing with and I’m allowing myself a chance to rest and see if things get better or worse before deciding to go back to work.

I hate calling in, I know that many people are calling in and the store is extremely short-staffed. Am I dealing with a very mild case of COVID-19? Am I dealing with a very mild case of pneumonia? Am I dealing with an upper respiratory infection? The government of Ontario and the health experts have all stated that anyone that doesn’t feel 100% should stay home.

Has my level of anxiety increased since this pandemic started?, YES. I went from working 18 hours/week to 30+ hours/week. My position at work has changed from working in the Bakery to being trained (working in close proximity) to the associate training me in Claims and in the Cash Office. Since I’m being shuffled from one department (to train) to another department, I’m an associate without a permanent position.

If COVID-19 wasn’t a concern, I probably would just suck it up and continue to work my shifts. I don’t like feeling as if I’m letting my team down. I also know that I have to do what is best for me, do the right thing, and stay home.

I’ll keep updating this post with any new developments~ Tuesday, April 21.

***** UPDATE***** Wednesday April 22*****

I decided to call telehealth figuring that while I’m not displaying the more common COVID symptoms, what I do have maybe the less frequent symptoms and it was best to seek advice from a health professional.

Besides, it’s part of the due diligence.

Telehealth was so concerned that they suggested that not only should I get tested for COVID, but I should call an ambulance. Anytime there is a concern with breathing, the online assessment assumes it’s the worst-case scenario. I voiced my concern that an ambulance was a little much considering that I live within walking distance to the local hospital and the slight pressure in my chest is just that, slight.
I said I would call the hospital to get further instructions for the testing.

The local hospital doesn’t test for COVID, they suggested that I call Ottawa Public Health to find the closest test clinic. Public Health didn’t confirm my address and wanted to send me to downtown Ottawa to get tested. I raised the concern and questioned if there wasn’t a closer clinic. To which there is, but they didn’t have the information handy.
I asked a friend that had recently been tested to find out where she went. That should have been my first inquiry.

I drove out to Winchester where the COVID testing is taking place, I was in/out in under 10 minutes. No long wait times and the swab was very similar to having a swab for Strep Throat, not a swab through the nasal cavity.

Results will be ready in 24-48 hours and I will get confirmation whether it’s positive or negative.

The paperwork that I was given from the testing facility states (suggests) that if the test is Negative that I can return to work 24 hours after symptom resolution.

If the test is Positive: Self Isolate for 14 days- Return to work after 2 negative swabs, at least 24 hours apart (assuming you feel fine, no symptoms).

I’ve already called my employer, left a message with HR to let them know that I will be calling in for the rest of this week (Thursday/Friday) I’m off Saturday/Sunday. By then I should have the results to know how to proceed, assuming there are no changes.

Temperature: 97.8F

Oxygen Level, Checked at the COVID test clinic, 95% (taken while I was wearing a facemask).

That’s the news, for now, ~ Wednesday, April 22, 2020  *******

***** Friday, April 24, 2020******

Today’s news is that my COVID-19 results have come back NEGATIVE! So that’s a relief. I have further instruction to Complete my 14-day self-isolation (since the date of the test) which means I’ll be out of work until May 6th.

I’m still fighting off something (respiratory) so it’s probably best that I do take the time to rest, hydrate and see if I can’t get rid of whatever this is.

 

******* Update Sunday, May 3, 2020 *******

The slight pressure that had been present since mid-March is no longer there. It’s been gone for a few days now along with any other symptoms. I’m back to feeling 100% and intend to return to work on Thursday, May 7th as planned.

Here are the latest update/policy changes from the big-box retailer (my employer).

  • Safety- Associate temperature and wellness checks will continue in the Distribution Centers, our drivers and we’ll begin to roll out this program in the retail stores. We are encouraging customers to limit entry to only ONE adult per family. We are also distributing (voluntary) PPE (masks/gloves) to associates and we strongly encourage you to wear them while at work.
  • Offering New Services- Groceries by phone (not available in all locations)
  • Priority Pharmacy Access- Customers picking up a prescription no longer have to wait in line. They can call the pharmacy outside and get further instructions before meeting the associate at the front of the store.
  • Priority Store Access- Hospital Workers and First Responders will be given priority access starting Monday, May 4th as another way to Thank them.
  • Groceries to Hospital Staff- We’ve partnered up with eleven hospitals so their staff can have groceries delivered right to the hospital and we’re working to expand this program.

Online Grocery Orders continue to be in high demand. We are filling tens of thousands of orders each day, which means the wait time may be longer.  More stores are adding additional time slots and offering delivery. We appreciate your patience as we work through this high demand.   *** end of memo ***

 

Here are my thoughts and tips if you choose to visit any public store:

Wear a facemask, whether it’s store-bought, homemade, a simple bandana, or a scarf. Wear some form of protection. While our employer is offering PPE, keep in mind that there are 50+ associates each day sharing resources that are in high demand and don’t come in as often as we expect (backorder).

Please follow the arrows on the floor, Please go down the aisle in the right direction. Please wait your turn before proceeding down the aisle. I know that that Meat and Dairy aisles are the busiest and often the most congested. You have associates standing to one side with carts because they are either restocking and have to get it completed within 20 minutes (temperature-sensitive food items) or the associates are doing their best to fill online grocery orders (also time-sensitive). Just follow the flow and treat those aisles as you would a One-Way street. You don’t have to wait for the associate to move, they should be parked off to the side, so go around them when you have the space to do so. Customers going through the aisles in the opposite direction are the ones making matters worse and holding everybody up.

Have a LIST and know what you’re looking for. That is the key to getting you and other customers in & out as efficiently as possible. Start at the furthest point from the registers and work you’re way to the front.

Don’t harass the cashiers about any quantity limits or new policies, they have ZERO control and are only doing what they are asked to do for their safety as well as yours. Yes, these are hard times, they are inconvenient for everybody. Some may be new hires and are still learning, so give them a break if they aren’t as “fast” as the next cashier, or if they make a mistake while ringing up your order.

While you’re shopping you see your friend or neighbor and want to catch up. I understand your excitement, you haven’t seen them in weeks. DON’T take up space in the aisles with the marked arrows. Meet up with them in a lower traffic area, like shoes, infants, men’s wear. Don’t block the high traffic aisles where you see associates moving through with their carts or continue to move through with skids from the back of the store. Pull off to the side (between displays) or meet up in the parking lot.

Anyway, that’s the news for now.

Stay Safe 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

Covid-19, The World We Live In

Covid-19- We’re in this together

Reinbeck Studio, Creative Space

Welcome back blog readers,

Scientists and Medical Health Professionals/Experts that have studied and researched infectious diseases and viruses are sharing their advice and tips on how to protect ourselves and each other.

I’m taking advice from, the experts who are at the top of their field. Not social media, not religious groups and certainly not those who feel that this pandemic doesn’t apply to them. COVID-19 applies to all of us.

There is not a single country that is prepared for a pandemic that is a new strain that doesn’t have a cure or vaccine at this time. This virus is spreading rapidly, so fast that hospitals and testing facilities can’t meet the demand.

I have read several comments on social media, people are worried and concerned. I’d say that’s a healthy and normal reaction to this situation. Within reason of course. This is unknown territory for everyone.

There are…

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Author Spotlight, Book Promotion, Fiction, Leave a Review, LGBTQ, Self-Publishing

Author Spotlight: A New Dawn by Tori Beth

After hiding the truth from everyone she loves, Dawn comes out as transgender. As she dives into her transition from Donald to Dawn, she is faced with adversity and tragedy, struggling with the reactions and loss of family to her own battle with gender dysphoria. As she blossoms into a strong and confident woman, she deals with the hatred and violence of society towards transgender individuals.

#fiction #LGBTQ #transgender #adversity #transrights #indieauthor

#amwriting, Amazon Kindle, Best Selling List, Book Promotion, Book Sales, Goodreads, Leave a Review, Self-Publishing, Victims of sexual abuse/sexual assualt

FREE Kindle Promotion Friday, April 10th- Sunday, April 12th 2020

I know that many readers are home self-isolating and are looking for something new to read. If you like #nonfiction #memoir #truecrime please consider obtaining a FREE Kindle e-book this weekend (of the free promotion).

https://www.amazon.com/Breaking-Cycle-Abuse-Journey-Survivor-ebook/dp/B07F2TZTRD/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=hannah+reinbeck&qid=1586098307&sr=8-1#reader_B07F2TZTRD

Amazon Kindle, Author Spotlight, Best Selling List, Book Promotion, Book Sales, Fiction, Goodreads, Self-Publishing

Author Spotlight- And A Meadowlark Sang: Goddess Durga (Book 1) by Jen Pretty

The world demands balance….
…The great goddess Durga demands it at the tip of her sword.

Vampires live in hiding. Mostly in harmony with humans, but there is a small number of vampires who unsettle the world, killing the innocent.
Lark is a simple yoga instructor but has always had a terrifying ability to see the creatures of the night who walk among humans. She knows her life is in danger if she lets her talent be known.
Nobody saw the great goddess coming until the balance tipped too far, and then it was too late.
Too late for the vampires and too late for Lark to slink back into the shadows.
The goddess Durga has risen.  All those who defy her will pay the price, and Lark will be the hand that wields her sword.
If you love high-action Urban fantasies with a slow-burn romance, then you will love this first installment of The Goddess Durga series.
Buy And a Meadowlark Sang to start the adventure today.

 

“I so enjoyed the plot on this book that I had to get the 2nd one.” — Amazon reviewer.

“New take on vampire hunters. Fun & exciting.” — Amazon reviewer.

#amwriting, Amazon Kindle, Author News, Goodreads, Self-Publishing

Hannah Reinbeck, Readers’ Choice 2019 Best Local Author Winner (Gold).

Welcome back blog readers,

There is a bit of news that I am excited to share with all of you. The results of the Best Local Author have been announced, here’s the link.
https://www.insideottawavalley.com/readerschoice-kemptville/categories/people-professionals/subcategories/local-author?fbclid=IwAR1KdeaqEpoRABXUHXTt1eweg_r7-eosxsLNrxIcfI3O8aHdv0QamsIOHXE

This is quite an honor considering that I came out publicly a few months ago as a local author. While my book has been available online for two years now, I’ve only maintained an online presence up until January of this year.

Having coming forward publicly/locally has been very rewarding, not only as an author but personally. Once a few co-workers caught wind that there was an author among them, word spread like wildfire. Since my debut/ first local appearance at the Author Showcase in February, I have sold 10 paperback copies (private sales) of my book during the month of March (to co-workers), making March 2020 the best month for sales, so far.

While selling 10 copies in one month may not sound like a lot, it’s not about the number of sales that was ever important to me; but rather the conversations that are prompted once the reader finishes my book. Four of those readers have a personal connection and share a similar experience. Three of those readers have a daughter, a niece, a family member that is trying to cope with the trauma they endured and are recommending my book as a means of helping them through a tough time. One reader is a mother and wants her oldest daughter to read my book so she can be aware of the potential dangers of teenage dating and learn how to recognize signs of an unhealthy relationship.

It’s that kind of support and recognition that helps to validate that sharing my experience as an adult of childhood sexual abuse worth the effort.

To all of you that have purchased a copy of Breaking the Cycle of Abuse: My Journey from Victim to Survivor, Thank You! To all of you that took a moment to cast your vote for me, Thank You! To those of you that opted to leave a review or rate my book on Amazon or Goodreads, I appreciate each one, Thank You!

That’s the Author News for now. ~ Hannah