Abuse comes in many forms, Domestic Abuse, Financial Abuse, Mental Abuse, PTSD, Self Help/Healing, Shared Link, Speaking from Experience, Stigma/Taboo

The Truth About Leaving an Emotionally Abusive Relationship.

https://thoughtcatalog.com/toni-cormier/2017/06/the-unedited-truth-about-leaving-an-emotionally-abusive-relationship/?fbclid=IwAR1hmjJ1cyoI80EuFYgPYiVsXd4CFBK-j5a2tkEfMlhTPAztwkisKNfI9-U

 

 

Speaking from Experience, Work

No News is Good News…

Welcome back blog readers,

I know it’s been a while since my last post. Life happens, and sometimes not much happens that’s worth sharing.

During the last month, I have been keeping myself busy with work and have been hooked on playing Diablo 3. The game has provided over 100 hours of entertainment thus far. The fact that my brother, his wife, and their oldest son also play makes the experience more enjoyable.

As far as work goes, things have gotten a bit busy/chaotic now that we are in the summer months and the kids are out of school. You might think that we’d be fully staffed since the high school kids are off for the summer. You’d be incorrect. The summer means more people taking their vacations.

Back in the day, there was a limit/restrictions as to how many associates were authorized Time Off within the same department. There was more coordinating involved as to not approve everyone to take their time off at the same time. Seems things have changed and we are left continuously short-handed, this time it’s not just one week, it’s the entire month of July.

Due to my pre-existing health conditions that will never get better (scoliosis), I’m only supposed to work 3 shifts per week, 4 at most as long as those days are split allowing me a chance to rest in between. For the most part, that has been happening and things (my back and the ability to work) has been manageable.

What people may not consider is that working in the Bakery department is physically demanding. Climbing ladders, reaching for the products in the freezer, lots of bending and squatting, loading up carts and pulling them through the store with more bending and squatting as you stock the shelves.

I did expect that I would be put on for an extra shift while our department is short-handed, to be expected. Four shifts over seven days is my maximum as long as they are spread out with a day OFF in between. It took a while for my manager to get it right, even though it’s not that hard to figure out or work with. I can work any 3-4 days, while closing shifts are better for me, I can open. What used to happen is that I’d get scheduled the last 3 days of the week and then the first 3 days into the following week. That doesn’t work for me, 6 shifts in a row, no time off to rest.

Right now I’m in what I call the Calm before the Storm. I’ve already worked Saturday 27th, Sunday 28th, Monday 29th and I’m not scheduled again until Monday, August 5th. Seems like a pretty sweet deal considering that I didn’t request anything special, it’s just how my manager created the schedule.

Here’s my schedule for the following week:

  • Monday 5th, 3:30 – 10pm
  • Tuesday 6th, 3:30 – 10pm
  • Wednesday 7th, 3:30 – 10pm
  • Thursday OFF I have my Chiropractor Appointment in the afternoon. Good thing, I’ll be needing it.
  • Friday 9th, 3:30 – 10pm
  • Saturday 10th, 3:30 – 10pm
  • Sunday 11th, 3:30 – 10pm
  • Monday 12th, 3:30 – 10pm

I was asked to cover Tuesday 13th, I only agreed if the person asking could take/switch any shift of mine from the 9th-12th, adding another day would kill me. She opted for the Monday 12th for her Tuesday the 13th. Still, a very grueling schedule for me considering my limitations and restrictions.

Out of curiosity, I wanted to see if we were looking to hire more people for Bakery/Deli as we need help. Nope, no job posting for either department. We have one associate out recovering from surgery, one high schooler going back in September and two attending college when the next semester begins in less than 35 days. That leaves me (part-time evenings) and one full-time opener to bake, stock, clean both Bakery/Deli. It’s just too much to keep up with.

While looking through the job postings, I noticed there was one for the Cash Office (part-time). I decided to apply for the position as an Internal Transfer. I’ve been in the Bakery department long enough to know that for whatever reason, the Fresh departments are always short-handed, if not Bakery, it’s Meats, Dairy, or Produce. I also have to be realistic about my situation (health-wise).

As much as I love what I do and take pride in what I put out, I know that I can’t do it much longer. I’ve been told to take it easy (by my manager) and not lift/move things I shouldn’t, in which case I wouldn’t be as productive. I move in ways that I shouldn’t and I will continue to do so because things have to get done and I’m a team player. Knowing this about myself, I have to do things differently and not put myself in a position of risking further injury or early disability.

From what I’ve been told from an associate that did work in the Cash Office the schedule seems to be set with rotation weekends 7am-11am and Monday/Tuesday 7am-3pm. So I’d either get two shifts or four, and they would rotate. That would work well for me, especially since I can’t imagine that there would be much heavy lifting and I’d have the chance to sit. While I do need at least 18 hours/week, I could always pick up one shift for Bakery on Thursday.

The associate I talked to said that chances are good that I would get that position since it’s hard to keep filled. The only reason why I would not, my manager doesn’t allow me to transfer because he’s already short-staffed and doesn’t want to lose me. I haven’t talked to my manager about this as it was very last minute and I rarely see him. The Store manager knows, and he accepted my request, so we’ll see how it plays out. Hopefully, I can cover both departments, make a little more money while ensuring that I don’t cut my workable years short.

Other than that, there is nothing new going on with me.

Thank you for your time and reading and your interest if you are following me.

Happy Wednesday ~ Hannah

 

*** Update***

Shortly after posting this, I noticed a missed text on my phone. My presence is being requested to close tonight. The high schooler that was scheduled, called in and seems to be making a habit of that at least once a week.  We are prepping for Inventory tomorrow and someone is needed to work in the freezer to count our products. Awesome!

Guess what I’m doing this evening? Working beyond my limitations and taking one for the team. I’m going to leave a note that lets my fellow co-workers know that they should consider me UNAVAILABLE until my next scheduled shift. I expect that I’ll be getting another text for me to cover for someone in the next few days.

Too Bad, I’m not coming in anymore until Monday. It’s great that I’m considered reliable, dependable but I will not allow this workplace to be the death of me. Hire a few more associates that want to work because I can’t cover for everbody all of the time while nobody covers for me.

 

 

 

Abuse comes in many forms, Crime/Punishment, Criminal Justice, Government, Immigrants, Not the Popular Opinion, Religious Beliefs, The World We Live In

A Cornucopia of WTFs

Welcome back blog readers,

I know that I haven’t been posting in a few weeks. Life gets busy, I’m not always inspired, and not everything is worthy of sharing.

Those of you that follow me on Facebook know that I am doing my best not to comment or share anything about #45. Which is difficult as he attributes to many WTF moments and thoughts. I don’t like contributing to making stupid people famous, or in this case, more famous as I find that sharing only does more harm than good.

WTF topic #1: WTF is really going on at the southern border?

The only news that seems to be shared is that the large migrant caravan has made it to the U.S border, families have been separated/detained. Several immigrants have died, including infants/toddlers and those humanitarians that want to help are being arrested for trying to bring water and necessities.

We are shown many pictures of detained people sleeping on the concrete with aluminum foil blankets, and they are being denied basic hygienic products like soap and toothpaste. There are many claims of children being abused, it’s just choas. Nobody is allowed to go in to verify the wellbeing of those detainees, and they are being treated worse than convicted felons in prison.

Do we know if any of the families are actually being processed to allow them safe/legal entry?

If the U.S knew (which I have to assume they did know) that they would not treat these families with humanity, why didn’t they simply turn them away or give them the option to turn around leave? Let them know what life would be like for them, let them know they would be separated from their kids/spouse, sleep on concrete for months, possibly indefinitely. Let those people decide which personal hell is worse.

WTF is Mexico doing to help their citizens? Is the government offering to help keep them safe should they want to go back/leave the detention area? The news coverage on that seems a bit sparse.

 

WTF topic #2: Why are rapists and pedophiles not SERVING the TIME they DESERVE?!?!?!

You know this topic gets my blood boiling. Time after time, no matter how many of us come forward with the truth, share our most profound shame, these assholes rarely serve two years in prison.

It seems like every week, there is a new headline of an accused sexual predator that has abused multiple people or one person over several years under the noses of their peers.  They are offered a plea deal, a slap on the wrist, community service because an actual GUILTY plea would ruin their life, their career, their chance at a scholarship. Well BOO fucking HOO!

The life of their victim(s) are ruined forever, life for them will never be the same. These sexual predators shouldn’t be allowed to be back in public, not ever.

What’s worse is that now we have Judges, Lawyers, Prisons, and Religious nut jobs that protect these sexual predators. I’ve said this before, and I’ll keep saying it, Once in prison, rapists are housed together away from Gen Pop, for their protection. Let that sink in!

I’ve also read many headlines that suggest that getting raped is “God’s Will.” Seriously WT actual F! If your god/religion teaches this, get a new religion.

Which is a good segway into the WTF topic #3: Child Brides/ Claiming religion makes it okay to not have morals.

I don’t care if the parent’s consent, the legal age of marriage should be universal worldwide at a minimum of 18. If you are not old enough to buy alcohol, sign a lease or other legal binding contract on your own, VOTE, open a bank account then in my eyes and in the eyes of many you are too young to consent to the marriage.

Men that seek child brides are pedophiles. PERIOD. Sex with a child is still rape, you will never change my mind on that. You can claim that they are your spouse all that you want, that doesn’t change the fact that they are too young to consent, and I don’t care that the parents agreed, they too are part of the problem and should be ashamed.

Religion should not violate human rights.

 

That is all of the time I have today. This post is one that I will update anytime I have a WFT topic to vent about. Chances are, you’ll see this post pop up as I update it.

#amwriting, #MeToo, Amazon Kindle, Author News, Best Selling List, Book Promotion, Book Sales, Self-Publishing

Self-Published, 1 Year Anniversary

My journey as a self-published author started one year ago (June 28th to be exact). That is the date that Breaking the Cycle of Abuse: My Journey from Victim to Survivor was released to the public on Amazon/KDP.

I’ve decided to celebrate this occasion by offering discounted prices for both Kindle and paperback copies for the month of June. The price for the Kindle e-book went from $3.99 (USD) to $2.01 (the lowest I was allowed to set), and the price for the paperback went from $14.95 (USD) to $7.50, and they will stay at those prices until June 30, 2019.

Here’s the link to the selling page, for anybody interesting in obtaining a copy at the discounted price while it lasts.

 

Since the release of this book, here are the stats.

  • Kindle e-books (sold)… 7 copies
  • Kindle Unlimited (pages read)… 1,369
  • Paperback (sold)… 9 copies
  • FREE Kindle downloads (Free Promotion)… 126
  • Total Royalties Earned… $64.22 CAD
  • Five 5-Star reviews on Amazon.com
  • One 5-Star review on Amazon.ca
  • Ranked #1 on Amazon’s Best Selling List under Sexual Abuse/Self Defense and Memoir in the USA and Canada.
  • 172 Followers on my Author page on Facebook
  • 565 Twitter Followers
  • 786 Friends on Facebook, under Hannah Reinbeck personal page
  • 23 Followers to this blog

All in one year.

I say not too shabby for an indie author that has done everything herself with the help of her husband that did a final edit and assisted with the cover design/format. I don’t have a team of assistants that help promote me or my work. I respond to every interaction on social media personally. Just as I have spent more on advertising than I’ve made. That’s the truth behind self-publishing.

Anyway, Please take advantage of the discounted pricing for the month of June! I encourage you to Share, Like, and leave a comment/feedback. Your reviews are welcome and can be left on any Amazon platform or on Goodreads if you’re a member. You may also leave a comment on my facebook page or messenger as a few have and those will be added to my Testimonial Page on this blog.

Thank You all for your continued support!!

As always, 25% of the proceeds will be donated to RAINN.

#amwriting, Author News, Speaking from Experience

Thank You!

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I wanted to express my gratitude to all of you.

  • Friends/Family
  • Readers that obtained a copy of my book in any format
  • Those of you that took a moment to leave a review/rating on Amazon or Goodreads
  • Authors/Bloggers that featured my work on your site/page to help promote and raise awareness
  • Supporters/Fans/Followers that Like/Share what I put out on my social media pages and write on this blog.

Over the last few days, you have shared my written work from this blog to Facebook over 208 times! That is just the last 4 blog posts over the last week. That truly speaks volumes. I can’t claim that this has technically gone “viral,” it is, however, a significant move forward from where I started one year ago.

Those of you that have been following along since the beginning, know that I’m not writing for the fortune and fame. My writing is therapeutic, it’s an aspect of my healing process and a way for my inner child to be heard. Writing allows me the opportunity to get out what I have been keeping in for so many years.

Many authors aspire to be the next Stephen King, Dean Koontz, J.K Rowling, or Nora Roberts. Fiction turned into movie deals, big box office hits or made for TV mini-series. I hope that my experience will break the cycle of abuse for another child. Maybe a parent will recognize the signs of grooming and take action before it’s too late. Perhaps other victims will be inspired to seek help when they are ready. Spouses/partners and family members will have a better understanding as to how to support a loved one that endured a similar trauma/abuse. To know that sharing my experience has helped another person, that is all I hope to achieve.

Thank You for helping me raise awareness. Thank You for deeming my work worthy of sharing/liking, reading and taking the time to leave a review. You have no idea how much that helps! Most importantly, Thank you for listening.

This is not a good-bye post, this is me recognizing each and every one of you and letting you now that I appreciate your support. Thank you for confirming that there is an audience and I’m not just talking to myself.

THANK YOU!!!