Misophonia, Speaking from Experience

Misophonia

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Welcome back blog readers,

In this blog post, I’d like to talk about Misophonia. To better explain what Misophonia is I’ll direct your attention to this link.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/sleepless-in-america/201809/misophonia?fbclid=IwAR1tBMy1nDbMz_cG7e1HH_J0_J2EJWV8EizVxgzOkwrQ03qyJY0Q-Qe5VNE

For those of you that don’t want to read an article about Misophonia, basically, it’s a condition in which certain repetitive noises/sounds trigger an irrational rage/annoyance.

The most common trigger sounds are loud chewing, heavy breathing, gum smacking, whistling/humming.

Here are the sounds that bother me.

I experience this regularly. I’m not a professional, but I wouldn’t classify my triggers as severe because there are a handful of repetitive sounds that I have difficulty enduring more than a few seconds of.

Loud (open-mouthed) Chewing/Slurping: I often avoid the community break room, too many people with a good chance that I’ll be set off and I fear just yelling STFU. It hasn’t happened because I choose to leave rather than cause a scene.

Smacking Gum (open-mouth) “Cud chewers”: I can spot them a mile away, and I avoid them if I can. Just seeing them from a distance smacking their gum is enough to evoke rage and violent visual images of throat punching them and walking away. Again, I have never acted, just can’t stop the visual that appears when I’m triggered.

Stirring spoon in a ceramic mug or spoon scraping the bowl: The constant clang, clang, clang. I get it, you have to stir, and I can tolerate a few, but for the love of god, you’re not mixing a large vat. The same goes for finishing soup or cereal or ice cream and the noise of trying to get every last bit out. If you can’t pick it up with the spoon, you’re done. Clearly just talking about it evokes anger because I can see it and hear it.

Licking: The noise from one of my pugs cleaning her foot. I’ll give her a few minutes, maybe she’s working out something between her toes/pads. If she goes on longer than a few minutes I have to stop her because she would keep going up to 30 minutes. I’ve turned up the TV, that doesn’t help because I can see her and the movement and I can still hear the sound in my head. Lick, lick, lick, lick, lick. She’s actually licked so much that she created a bald spot on the top of her foot a few years ago.

Loud Crying from kids: I’m triggered out in public, mostly at work when I can hear go on for more than a minute throughout the store, and it gets louder and louder. Most of the time the parent isn’t doing anything to console their kid, they keep shopping and have clearly tuned the screeching out. I can tell the difference between a newborn and a toddler. I’m not bothered by the cries of a newborn. I’d like to clarify that just because I am triggered by the sound, doesn’t mean that I don’t like kids or that I can’t babysit. For some reason, the noise while I’m able to control the situation doesn’t bother as it does when I’m not in control. Honestly, I’m very good with kids.

Heavy mouth breathing: Whether it’s someone with a case of COPD or someone that normally breathes through their mouth instead of their nose. I try to rationalize, knowing it’s most likely a medical condition and they can’t help it. But I do find it hard to focus on what they are saying when all I hear is heavy breathing.

While the trigger noise is taking place, I can’t focus on anything. I hear the noise, and the feeling of anger/rage comes over me. The temptation to want to yell “Enough,” “Chew with your mouth closed” is repeated in my head, but I do have enough control to rarely let the inside voice become an outside voice. Unless it’s my dog, to which I do communicate my frustration. Once the trigger noise has stopped, I take a deep breath and continue with what I’m doing.

For those of you curious enough about your level of misophonia you can take a quick test to see where your tolerance level is. I have to make the disclaimer that this test is not meant to officially diagnose you. It will be a good indicator as to how much you are bothered and how you might seek help if you score above 50%. For those inquiring minds, I scored 47.3%.

http://www.misophonia.com/

I feel it’s important to talk about my experiences no matter how awkward, bizarre or quirky they might be. I know that I’m not the only one that suffers from this, but that doesn’t mean other people that are also suffering have to go on thinking they are “crazy” or feel embarrassed to talk about it, now that they know what “it ” is. Treatment is available for those of us with severe cases.

Welcome to the Misophonia Club! Loud Chewers need not apply ~ Hannah

 

 

Misophonia, Venting

Pet Peeves and other annoyances

I’m feeling a bit feisty this evening, you have been warned.

As I mentioned in the last blog post, there are many things that I consider sharing on here, but I often forget half of it. The creative juices are flowing, so in no particular order whatsoever….

Loudmouth chewing/slurping/gum smacking, also known as misophonia. I don’t know why the noise bothers me so much, but the noise is like fingernails across a chalkboard to me. Also in this category is the noise of a spoon that is hitting the inside of a ceramic mug (coffee stirring) or inside of a bowl as someone attempts to get every last bit of ice cream/soup/cereal or whatever. Sure, give your coffee a stir and eat your meal, but for the love of god quit clanging the spoon around. If the last bit of food is too little to be picked up by your spoon, guess what YOU’RE DONE! If you’re still hungry, then get another serving.

Smacking your gum/chewing it with your mouth open drives me mental. Just the constant noise while you’re smacking and talking at the same time. For the love of god, close your mouth, you look like a cow chewing its cud. Yes the word CUD refers to partially digested food, not to be confused with COULD, as in Could you close your mouth when chewing your gum?  Good segway.

Stop spelling like a toddler (unless you are a toddler than no offense). Spelling these words improperly is not cute.

Should, as in texting doesn’t mean you SHOULD shorten this word to SHUD.

Could, as in you COULD try using proper grammar in your posts so you don’t come across as an idiot. Stop shortening COULD with CUD as it has a totally different meaning, see above.

Would, as in WOULD you please stop shortening these words because it drives me mental everytime I read it a small part of me dies inside. The word you want to use is WOULD, not WUD.

I am not a member of the grammar police, as I am pretty laid back when common words such as their, there, they’re, where, wear, hear, here, our, your, you’re, affect, effect are misused. I know that autocorrect may be involved and sometimes it’s just a typo, so I overlook it. I have a hard time overlooking SHUD, WUD, and CUD because that person isn’t even trying.

People that feel the need to have their conversations on Speaker while they are out in public. While you may think the world revolves around you, I can assure you that it does not. The only person that should be listening to your phone conversation is YOU. Nobody wants to hear your drama, or you talking like a badass, or hear about how drunk/high you were or how much of an asshole your boyfriend is. *NEWSFLASH* NOBODY CARES!!!!!!!!!

Passive/Aggressive (Attention seeking) posts on Facebook. I know that you’ve seen them, we’ve all seen them and perhaps some of us are guilty of this annoying trend. Posts that read something like this: FML Could My Day Get Any Worse!  Basically, the poster is hoping to bait someone into asking “What’s wrong?” because they desperately want to talk about it, but don’t want to come out and say it. Drives me mental! Honestly, I tend to snooze a few “friends/family” that do that constantly. I can’t be bothered with your drama.

Also, those that are constantly seeking attention with their posts like: Let’s lift each other up! Post your favorite picture of ME so I can comment on it.

Seriously? I refuse to go through your 100+ selfies, repost it on your page so that you can comment on yourself. I also don’t COPY/PASTE or TYPE AMEN either. I will share to spread awareness, I will share when a child or dog goes missing in the area, but I will not soothe your ego. If you need constant attention, get a dog. If you’re wondering why you are still single…. Here’s why. It’s one thing to feel needed, it’s another to be needy.

Askholes, yes ASKHOLES. You know the types, those friends/family that always come to you for advice for their relationship issues, financial issues or any situation where they want you to listen and give examples of how they can fix their situation. Being the good person that you are, you give great advice and cite a few examples to which your friend thinks are great! You’re a lifesaver! The next week rolls around and they are still in the same sad situation. Your advice was not followed, they decided to try it their way (because that’s worked out so well in the past). Your friend comes looking for more advice, to which you find that you are repeating yourself and the Askhole cycle continues. Short of taking matters into your own hands, you can’t help an askhole because askholes require drama in their life. Consider yourself warned.

There are more examples, but I think I will save those for a work related pet peeve post in the very near future.

To be continued…. ~Hannah