January 7, 2019
January 7, 2019
After reading White Elephants, you will have a better understanding as to how Bi-polar doesn’t just affect the person suffering from it, but when the illness is not treated, Bi-polar creates havoc for those family members living with them as the never-ending cycle of chaos sucks the happiness out from those that are in close proximity.
Chynna was forced to grow up too quickly as she tried to protect her younger brother from witnessing their mother going through the drunken and often violent episodes. As a child that took on a parental role and doing her best to keep an eye on her mother, she witnessed and experienced things that no child should ever have to deal with, let alone carry such secrets in order to protect her brother and her extended family.
Sadly, this family dynamic is just one of many that sweep things under the rug. Important issues are never talked about, family members constantly enable the person with the taboo problem, so they never really have to be held accountable for their actions. Everyone knows there is a problem, but nobody wants to acknowledge it. What families like this (mine included) fail to see is that when an adult fails to step up, the children are left to deal with the aftermath and suffer the most.
While Chynna didn’t make it through unscathed, she was able to pick herself up, dust herself off and turn her life around. Sure there were many life lessons learned the hard way, but in many respects, she’s stronger from those experiences and was able to break the cycle for her children.
Welcome back blog readers,
In this post I will share why I prefer the Holland America Cruise Line over Royal Caribbean, Carnival and Norwegian.
The ships in the Holland America line all look very similar on the outside and can be distinguished from the dark blue color that is painted on the lower half of the ships. During one of the “Talk with the Captain” lectures, it was mentioned that Holland America has this shade of blue specially made for their ships. There is a name to the color, but it escapes me.
The layout of their ships is also very similar, which is probably great for crew members that work 9 months on one ship then starts a new contract on another ship, it takes less time to get to know. I found this to be true as a passenger having been on 3 of their ships and feeling familiar when you leave one and get on another.
Holland America does many things that really stand out, lots of little touches or attention to detail that I have not noticed/experienced on the other cruise lines. While my experiences are subjective, it’s still worth mentioning.
Holland America does tend to be known for being the cruise line for older people, that isn’t entirely true. While they don’t have the water slides, ziplines, rock climbing walls or character parades; there are families with small kids, there are younger couples and younger singles as well.
If you are like my husband and I that are introverted, not a fan of big crowds, not using the cruise to drink ourselves silly, not high energy but still want to get out and enjoy what the ship has to offer, visiting beautiful ports and just wanting to relax on your vacation… If this all sounds like a great way to spend your vacation, then you won’t be disappointed with Holland America. After reading that back, I can see where we might sound boring or would be compared to an older couple. If anything, they have raised the bar and the other cruise lines won’t compare to the level of service, cleanliness and friendliness. At least that has been my experience. Now that we have cruised with Royal Caribbean, Carnival and Norwegian, to gain experience we will only cruise with Holland America going forward.
One very noticable thing about cruising on a smaller ship like Holland America and the Carnival Legend is that you tend to notice the motion of the ocean a bit more. If the water is choppy, lots of white caps are visible, you will feel the sway. My earlier recommendation if you suffer from motion sickness is to made your way mid-ship. On one occasion we were walking from one end of a deck to the other and you felt like you were walking through a fun house, which some people find fun and normally I would too. Not in an aggressive swaying from left to right motion, but slower gradual motion.
On the bigger ships like the Allure of the Seas you barely felt anything at all. The Norwegian Epic was similar, I tend to notice the movement when I’m sitting. If you find the motion getting to you, try not to focus on the movement, or get to mid-ship and look out from a window. You can always pack pills for motion sickness, just in case. The medical center on board can also assist you if you haven’t got your sea legs yet. It happens to the best of us, including me especially if I’m sitting and my equilibrium is trying to figure out which way we’re moving. Luckily the icky feeling is short lived and passes in a few hours and the rest of the cruise is fine.
Cruise line loyaly offers perks after your second cruise or after you’ve cruised 10-14 days. Each line varies in what they offer for loyaly perk. The perks alone may sway you to cruise with one line over another. I can only share my experiences, share tips and advice so that you can make the best choice for you and your family.
For those of you that don’t have an account on Goodreads, here is the 5-Star review.
First, I want to thank Hannah Reinbeck for providing me with this book so I may bring you this review.
Hannah Reinbeck is a strong woman to share her story with her readers in Breaking the Cycle of Abuse My Journey from Victim to Survivor. What has not killed Hannah emotionally and mentally through her journey has made her a stronger woman through all of this. Her hopes in writing this book is not only for her healing to begin but to help others in this situation.
Hannah would like to thank her husband for all his support, encouragement, and accepting her for who she is! She thanks him for accepting her for who she is. She thanks him for loving her unconditionally, embracing her flaws and being so patient with her. You have helped her with her self-worth.
Hannah’s story is a powerful one. My hope that by her writing this book and sharing her tale that it could help someone. Maybe someone that also went through something like this and also needs to go through the healing process. This book needs to be shelved in Crisis Services or Psychiatrists offices. I commend Hannah for being brave in writing her story for her readers to read. My bet is that it was not easy to write. This book comes out right at the time that the #MeToo movement is so strong in the media. She mentions that in the book strongly in fact. I happen to agree with everything she touches on
This book gives a detailed background on each of her family member and what role abuse played in their lives. You will hear horror stories of each of the family members and how they impacted Hannah’s life. At the end of the book you will learn what happened to them in their life.
I am a reader with a heart of gold. My heart went out to Hannah on many occasions. I wanted to reach out to her and give her a huge hug. But the men her mom choose to put into her kids lives and the abuse Hannah and Joey suffered was inexcusable. Not to mention Hannah’s Mom was warned about George from a previous wife about him being a Pedophile but she ignored her claims.
As I stated earlier Hannah wrote this book as part of her healing process. However, her Mother does know that this book is written and that she is front and center in it.
Hannah points out the graphic content that may be triggers to some readers a head of time and when the scene is over. I thought that was extremely mindful and thoughtful. Many books of similar topics never point this out. Kudos to Hannah for this.
As readers we get to hear Hannah’s inner thoughts to what she was thinking at the time in the Italics. Many times, I found this to be comic relief for what she was going through. For example, the abuse would always happen when there was a food run.
Hannah shows her readers that she is a survivor. That she had a bad past that affected her and that she is slowly healing however she is moving on past that. That she found an amazing, loving and supporting husband Jay, that she was the first female student to graduate in the automotive field in her school, and that she is now an incredible Cake Decorator.
At the end of this book there National References to various different websites such as RAINN, Canadian Child Center of Protection, ETC.
As part of a book/review exchange with another author on Twitter, I give it a solid 4 out of 5 stars.
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November 13, 2018 – Finished Reading
|Review|| Real, Honest and Unique.
I was drawn in and was able to finish reading in a single sitting (Which is huge for me). Thank you for sharing your story and for your courage to come forward when we instinctively want to bury things and run from our past. Especially when many of us are taught to do just that, stuff our feelings down and never speak of them.
The level of education that we achieve is not only measured by your grades, being a straight-A student, having a perfect GPA or your ability to be accepted into a prestigious Ivy League College. Some of us are forced to learn the hard way that traditional academic classes don’t prepare us for Real Life. Being a college graduate doesn’t guarantee that you won’t have to compromise your morals in order to pay the bills.
Those readers that are struggling with a similar dilemma may take comfort in knowing that hard times are temporary, it has to rain before the rainbow appears. My long-winded point being: We have to live life in order to gain experience and learn life lessons that you can’t find in academic books. If there is no one to guide us, we do the best that we can until we learn to do it better.